The Holy Spirit showed me something that I never connected with before. James 1:8 says that the double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. Please read these verses with that in mind regarding our thoughts.
James 3:9-12 says, “With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.”
Everyone is made in the image of God. Through our thoughts first then words, we either bless or curse others as well as ourselves. It is either or in our secret dialogue in our minds.