How do we curse ourselves or others? Words that are derogatory, critical, bitter, accusing, tearing down, speaking death words, frowning, rejection, etc. 

How do we bless ourselves or others? Affirming, encouraging, speaking truth in love, speaking Scripture, smiling, building up, comforting, etc. Life-giving words are gracious, wholesome, building up, and complimenting based on character.

2 Corinthians 5:16 says to not regard others according to the flesh. Verse 17 says that we are new creations in Christ, therefore our view of ourselves and others should line up with Scripture. Do you see yourself as He sees you? That is the key to freedom from self-hatred and self-rejection.

Seeing ourselves and others through the flesh blinds us from encouraging them to potential. We focus on their lack rather than God’s ability to save or regenerate. God alone is able to turn hearts. Our negative thoughts translate to negative body language that discourages rather than encourages.