Spouses know their partners better than anyone else. Our character is displayed behind closed doors and in the open. Conflict is a perfect tool that often triggers hidden fleshly reactions. Words can be spoken in haste. Buried hurts, offenses, resentments, emotional pain from the past surface unexpectedly. These pressures are part of conforming us to Christ’s image. 

Use blessing as a tool. Say that your spouse, child, or friend is depressed or disappointed. You can pray on their behalf, “Lord, I ask you to bless them in a way that will take the heaviness from their heart.” You can write them a card asking the Lord to bless them. Something like, “May the Lord grant you hope in place of your broken expectation. May He fulfill the longings of your heart.”

We cannot bring change to another’s heart. However, we can ask the Lord to do it. We see their need that keeps them bound. Then we ask Him to fulfill that need by blessing them.