I’m reading the gospel of John. As I read yesterday, the Lord showed me something I had not considered before. Jesus had just miraculously fed the 5,000. Then He went by Himself to the mountain to get away from the crowd. His disciples got in a boat and headed across the sea for Capernaum. A great wind came up. Then they saw Jesus walking towards them on the water.
They were afraid. John 6:20-21 says, “But He said to them, ‘It is I; do not be afraid.’ Then they willingly received Him into the boat…” Note their openness to Him once they let go of their fear.
Fear creates barriers that inhibit open relationships. Paul spoke this to the Corinthians. 2 Corinthians 6:11-13. Verse 12 Amplified says, “There is no lack of room for you in (our hearts), but you lack room in your own affection (for us).”
1 John 4:18 says that fear has torment. Skip over to Matthew 18:34. It is the fruit reaped of the unforgiving servant. His unforgivness turned him over to the tormentors. Verse 35 says, “So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.” Relational fear is a tormentor.
Fear of rejection or of being hurt again causes the heart to withdraw. It’s a false barrier of self-protection. We cannot know what another is thinking unless they tell us.
Our thoughts control our brain and our brain controls our body. If a person is thinking negatively about you, it will be evident in their body language. It will not be open and receptive. Consider 1 Timothy 6:11 as your course of action. It says, “But you, O man of God, flee these things and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, gentleness.”
God gives grace to the humble. When we humble ourselves He will give us the grace to walk through the situation without taking up an offense. Romans 12:18 says, “If it is possible as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”
I have this verse written on a card taped on my cabinet. Titus 3:2 says, “To speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all men.”