I love this verse in the Amplified. Proverbs 29:11 says, “A (self-confident) fool utters all his anger, but a wise man holds it back and stills it.” A fool vents with words spewing out. A wise man does the opposite. How do we ‘still’ anger?
James 1:19-20 are great verses to store in our heart. They say, “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not promote the righteousness that God requires.”
Ephesians 4:26-27 says, “Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” There is righteous anger. It is the opposite of sinful anger. Verse 27 follows the comma after verse 26.
In other words we are to resolve the issue that is making us feel angry before we enter into sin because of it. We are not to let it simmer, or to stuff it, or to let it occupy our mind. “Do not let…” is our responsibility.
Going back up to verse 22 it says, “That you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts.” It may feel good to vent your anger because it feeds your flesh. Our flesh is hungry for revenge.
Verse 24 says, “And that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.” NOTE. Sandwiched between verse 22 and 24 is verse 23 which which says, “And be renewed in the spirit of your mind.” If we miss this step our self-efforts will be fleshly and profit nothing (John 6:63).
Therefore we process our feelings of anger and still them BY putting off the anger, renewing our mind through the truth of God’s word, and then putting on His righteousness. Literally conforming our thoughts, purpose, and actions to His will through His word.
What is His will? Romans 12:18 says, “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.” Here is the other part. Verse 19 says, “Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, Vengeance is Mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
Spewing angry words is avenging yourself. Instead, we are to give that place to the Lord. He is our Avenger. We sin against the Lord when we take His place. The principle: anytime we disobey God’s word we sin against Him.
The temptation is to sin in our anger. That is exactly how we give place to the devil (Ephesians 4:27) instead of giving place to the Lord (Roman s 12:19). Any temptation can be quenched by putting the above verses into practice. 1 John 1:6 says, “If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.” Sin disrupts our fellowship with the Lord until we confess it and forsake it.