1 Corinthians 13:5 Amplified says, “…Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it (it pays no attention to a suffered wrong).”
I know folks who have books (plural) of records of wrongs. They can recount every detail of wrong done to them. I like the example in Acts of the folks who LEFT their old way of life. They had a huge bonfire to destroy what had held them captive to satan’s ways.
Acts 19:19 says, “Also, many of those who had practiced magic brought their books together and burned them in the sight of all…” The result? Verse 20 says, “So the word of the Lord grew mightily and prevailed.” The sin of unforgiveness hardens our heart and makes it impermeable to God’s truth that will set us free.
Our record of wrongs is an offense to the Lord. After Peter rebuked the Lord, Matthew 16:23 says, “…Get behind Me, Satan! You are an offense to Me, for you are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men.” Jesus paid for everyone’s sins: yours and the ones of the people who sinned against you. 1 Peter 2:24 says, “Who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree…”
Whether we choose to obey or disobey His command to forgive, it is a heart-issue between us and the Lord–irregardless of others or our circumstances.
Keeping a record of wrongs is sin which defiles our character to be Christlike. God is holy and He has called us to walk in His holiness. 1 Thessalonians 5:24 says, “He who calls you is faithful, who also will do it.” God chose to not remember our sins. Hebrews 8:12 says, “For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more.”