Rejection is a universal emotional pain. It seems to be a hurt that everyone experiences in their life. It comes in myriad ways, but the message is that we are not wanted. It makes us feel deficient in an area or multiple areas. We often take it personally, when in fact, it was a deficiency in the one who rejected us. The fiery dart lies begin to bombard us. They usually come in the first person.

The lies might make us turn against ourselves. The questioning lies are all negative. They distort the truth of who we are, and who God created us to be. Any lie that satan throws our way is against our design. Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you…” The Lord designed us exactly as He saw fit. His entire purpose for our life was included. Psalm 119:73 says “Your hands have made me and fashioned me; give me understanding, that I may learn Your commandments.”

It is essential to consider that Jesus was rejected. Isaiah 53:3 says, “He is despised and rejected by men, a Man  of sorrows and acquainted with grief…”  He knows what we are experiencing when we are rejected. Hebrews 4:15 says, “For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.” Jesus suffered ultimate rejection by His Father, in order for us to be accepted in the Beloved.

As we read through our Bible, we see account after account of rejection. Adam and Eve rejected God’s command. Cain rejected God’s way to make a sacrifice and murdered his brother. Israel rejected God in wanting a king. 1 Corinthians 10 gave a brief history of Israel. Verse 6 says, “Now these things became our examples, to the intent that we should not lust after evil things as they also lusted.”

Rejection leaves an emotional hole. We tend to fill it with other things that choke out God’s word from working deep into our heart. It is His word that will bring the instruction we need. We cannot effectively navigate through emotionally painful times through leaning on our flesh. John 6:63 says, “It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to  you are spirit, and they are life.”

It is pointless to keep bringing up the lies. It is impossible to name them all. However, truth is a far more excellent way to the path of healing from rejection. John 15:16 says, “You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name He may give you.”

Don’t allow the lies to remain that you have believed about yourself because of being rejected. Demonic lies are the underpinning of rejection. They are all lies designed to control our lives. There is only One that we want to be under the control of. That is where fruit is borne that will glorify the Lord. Galatians 5:22-23 is a list of the fruit of the Spirit. It will be evident in our lives as we walk in the Spirit. 

Love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control are like a cluster of grapes. A cluster has individual grapes, but they are a whole. So we are in the body of Christ. Individuals that make a whole expression of Him on this earth. The enemy taunted the Jews as they rebuilt the walls of Jerusalem. Nehemiah 4:2 says, “Will they revive the stones from the heaps of rubbish–stones that are burned?” If you have ever been burned in a relationship, there is hope! You are called to endure. Lay hold of the Lord in a new way. Lean hard on His grace. He will be the Healer you need for your broken heart.