Disappointment is rooted in broken expectations. Proverbs 25:19 says, “Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble, is like a bad tooth and a foot out of joint.” Have you ever tried to walk on a broken foot? There is no stability.
Let’s link James 1:6-8 with broken expectations. The three verses go back to verse 5 which is asking God for wisdom during our trials. They say, “But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.”
Our expectations in man will fail. Jesus instructed His followers. Mark 11:22 says, “…Have faith in God.” When we turn to anything or anyone other than the Lord in our time of trouble, our expectations will be broken.
Man can plan, but only God has control. Proverbs 16:1 says, “The preparations of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord.” Verse 3 is a clear direction for each one of us.
It says, “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.” When we compare ‘established’ with ‘double-minded’ we can easily see the difference. The Hebrew word for ‘commit’ means to roll, roll down, roll away, remove.
The word is aptly illustrated with a loaded camel. When the load is to be removed, the camel kneels down, tilts far to one side, and the load rolls off. What a picture for us! We are to roll our troubles off onto the Lord through trusting prayer.
Have you ever given your burden to the Lord and then taken it back? That only proves that we did not trust Him to carry it for us. Pride sneaks in and we think that we can do it through worry. Worry divides our mind and brings disordered thoughts.
Psalm 37:5 says, “Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.” Verse 7 says, “Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him…” Verse 8 says, “…do not fret—it only causes harm.”
Do you know what fretting does? It rubs until it wears away. Fret means to be constantly or visibly worried or anxious. It also means to gradually wear something away by rubbing or gnawing.
Worry, anxiety, and fear cause our brain to signal our body to go into a fight or flight mode. The Lord created us with the ability to fight or flee when we are in danger. However, chronic worry, anxiety, or fear keeps our sympathetic system in the fight or flight mode even though there is no danger. It keeps us in stress which raises cortisol.
Disappointment can linger unless we process it to acceptance. We do that by first acknowledging our sin of placing our expectation on someone or something. We agree with the Lord that we usurped His place. We ask for His forgiveness, and then stand in His grace to move beyond our disappointment.
Only the Lord can fulfill His promise. He is our Masterful Orchestrator. Man has no control over anything except his thoughts. We are the only ones who can control our thoughts. We lay a great foundation for our thought processes through memorizing and meditating on God’s word.