I have a mentee that will not forgive the one who hurt her deeply. She is tormented. She breaks glass and cuts herself with it. She uses drugs. She cannot sleep. She has to live with her mom because she is not functional. Though she understands that she has been forgiven, she says, “I can’t forgive.” Using can’t is translated as not being willing.

Who has hurt you? Even if they have passed away, carrying unforgiveness in your heart is hurting you. This is often the case with those who carry grudges. The person they hold the grudge against has no clue. 

Unforgiveness is often the root to chronic diseases. It certainly disrupts and often destroys marriages, and creates destructive interpersonal relationships. Years ago, a friend of mine died, I wondered “Was it worth all their anger, bitterness, and railing over the years?”

Jesus died on the cross. He bore the sins of every human that ever lived and will live. He paid the price by taking our place. Rejecting His offer of salvation, will plunge one into a Christless eternity of torment.